tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-72728744672397931642024-02-07T03:54:40.785-08:00Perfectly Flawed MommyxoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-51301530312848501422015-03-23T21:49:00.000-07:002015-03-23T21:49:01.022-07:00In my head the words flow. They fall out on to the mental paper with beautiful ease. A sappy song or meaningful quote and out comes more. But the minute I look at a blank page....that is what I become blank.The free feelings stop flowing. The fear takes over. The desire for intricate perfection to always be in place. Logically I know that once I start typing all will be well and the piece will work it's self better than the version in my head. I don't really know what I am scared of. Fear that on paper the feelings become real? Who knows. I just wish it didn't hold me back from writing...something. Just something.<br />
They are just words...but words are who I am.<br />
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<br />xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-61163327566598429612014-12-02T11:57:00.002-08:002014-12-02T11:57:36.579-08:00Rainy day thoughts.....Today I stood in the door way looking out into the rain soaked vehicle in my driveway. In the vehicle blurry silhouettes bounced while their muffled noises of glee (or antagonism) radiated in the enclosed space.<br />
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I stood with 13 bags (a minor exaggeration), coffee, protein shake, dog leash and keys deciding what to do. Should I enter what looks to be the Thunder Dome or drop my bags, close the door and let them "hang out" whilst I warmed up another cup of coffee and read? I quickly reminded myself that I can't do that. Work is calling. School is in session.<br />
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I continued to stand and watch. I watched in horror and happiness. Horror that I would have to endure the noise. Happiness that my kids are healthy and happy. Happiness that I have an amazing job, a door way to stand in. Horror that I was going to have to go out in the rain and mess my less than perfect hair. Thankfully I didn't have to wash it today and the rain will help to blend the dry shampoo that created a haze of grey, aging me just a few more years....because that's just what I needed.<br />
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It's the little things....<br />
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xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-498504082376715362014-11-29T12:55:00.001-08:002014-11-29T12:55:27.278-08:00I locked myself in the bathroomI locked myself in the bathroom.<br />
Like an old man, I grabbed a book, opened the door, turned on the fan and took a seat. But I never "went". Well that's not true. I peed once.<br />
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I heard footsteps trample past and the muffled voices of children snipping at each other. I heard my husband yelling at the TV as though the football coach could hear his critiques.<br />
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At our house a closed door with the fan on is like having skull and crossbones on the door. You would enter at your own risk and we all know it's not a risk we want to take.<br />
So it's a perfect cover for 15 minutes of semi-silence (semi because clearly muffled voices isn't true silence).<br />
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I'd hit my limit of tolerance and I need a quick Apple iCharge turbo save me. I waltzed in, put the toilet seat down, sat and read. It was heaven. Obviously not real heaven where they have wine and cheese and background smells of fresh spring air. But that's not realistic. So the bathroom has become my refuge.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-55990649710126873082014-04-06T17:26:00.004-07:002014-04-06T17:26:54.456-07:00Balanceblogging is something I think about daily. I actually feel like I write something in my head every day. I come up with amazing ideas and topics during the strangest times. Buckling the strap on my heels, returning the shopping cart to the rack, listening to the older women at the gym chatter, buying lunch, driving in the car in complete silence. Topics stroll through my mind about love, forgiveness, acceptance, truth, kids, frustration, work-life non-balance, happiness, stress, hate, freedom, husbands, friends....I could go on and on. They are all topics I have tackled. But in reality my last real entry was from September 2011. Sigh.<br />
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My past few months have been inundated with lots of things. The struggle to find the work life balance has been futile. About three weeks ago I came to the conclusion that there is no balance. It's no possible. There isn't a perfect amount of this and a little of that and then happiness. I've decided it's less about balance and more about acceptance. Acceptance that there isn't this perfect algorithm that I just haven't found. It was a disappointing moment but it was also freeing. To accept that I was searching for something that wasn't going to happen lifted a weight. One thing on my perpetual to do list was permanently marked off.<br />
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So much about life is about acceptance. Acceptance of the imbalance. Acceptance that the blog ideas will have to wait. That just because I don't write them doesn't mean that the ideas disappear. Acceptance that it won't always be this hard. Sometimes the hard gets less hard and sometimes the hard changes. There is even acceptance of acceptance. Acceptance that sometimes it just wont work out. Acceptance that every day is a new day and we are all doing our best.<br />
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xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-36533510300592544852011-09-05T13:17:00.000-07:002011-09-05T13:17:50.911-07:00MadeI'm back! Well, I hope I'm back. It feels like I've spent the past few months in a time vacuum. Days wiz past faster than I had ever imagined.<br />
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Many days I question if I am really equipped for this whole "mom" thing. It just seems that some people are made to be moms. Not to say that these "made" mommies don't struggle and find themselves looking for five minutes of quiet and find those five minutes locked in their closet with a glass of wine. I certainly don't doubt that. But on the bad days I usually say to myself that I just wasn't made for this kinda work. Like a 4'11", 95lbs person probably isn't cut out to be a lumber jack. But I make it through and will, cause that's what mommies do.<br />
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I'd like to think that part of what keeps me half sane is the nutty things the kids do. For instance....<br />
On a particularly challenging morning (which translates to a morning with two time outs each, hitting, crying and me finally just accepting that I won't be at work by 8am) I got in the truck practically in tears only to look in the rear view mirror to see the <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">boys</span> fist pumping to Stone Temple Pilots. I could I not laugh....and cry.<br />
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Or the time when <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta;">she </span>spent the day shuffling around the house in those horrid, stupid, irritating plastic high heels saying <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta;">she </span>was really busy with her work. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta;">She </span>collected random bits from around the house - an old remote, a napkin, something from under the couch (don't ask), and a few toys - and stuffed them into a small box. It looked hoarder-ish (a behavior I try to prevent). When I asked <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta;">her </span>what <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta;">she </span>was up to, <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta;">she </span>would only reply "I'm really busy. I'm working." You don't have to look to hard to see where that came from........xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-88877163851757316012011-05-14T09:07:00.000-07:002011-05-14T09:07:25.696-07:00It's been months since my last post (this sounds like a confession). I don't have many excuses, well, I guess I have a handful of them - three kids, a husband, a home and a flourishing business. It's not that I haven't thought about blogging. I've thought about it a lot. Unfortunately thinking about blogging doesn't make it happen. Mr. Steve Jobs needs to get on an app for that.<br />
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Time. Or maybe lack there of. This has become a huge theme in my life. Time to get up. Time to get dressed. Time to leave. Time to work. Not enough time to get everything done. Time for dinner. Time for bed. Time to catch up on house work. Not enough time to get it all done. Time to rest. Not enough time to rest. Blah, blah, blah....<br />
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Sigh. As a result of time and lack of time, blogging has taken a back seat. Well, let's be honest. Blogging isn't even in the same vehicle. I had to let blogging out of the car. Each night I would vow to let it back in (along with other things that had been pushed out). Why it's happening today? Who knows. But I'm certainly not complaining.<br />
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She is now four. Four going on fourteen. Sassy (wonder where she gets that) and smart. Bad combination. She also has the memory of an elephant. Which is not in my favor either. She's constantly reminding me what I had said to her earlier - "Mommy, are you forgetting something?"<br />
"Um, what?"<br />
"You said that I could have a present if I was good all day."<br />
"I did?"<br />
"Yes. Remember when we were getting dressed this morning and you were brushing my hair."<br />
"Oh, that's right."<br />
"So where is my present?"<br />
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Gawd. She's only four.<br />
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The boys are two and there are two of them so that calculates to four. And that is how it feels. That there are four of them. Fights, yelling, choke holds, hugs, time outs, smiles, laughter, mine-mine-mine, me first.<br />
It's a wild ride. They are amazing. The process of having them in my life is an amazing experience and I am so thankful. But......but wow. What a job. As I lay them down to sleep, kiss their heads, listen to their mumbled jabber as they chatter with pacifiers in their mouth, I am so thankful for their little faces but I am also so thankful that they are going to bed.<br />
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Time for a wee-bit of peace.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-76951090268004331552010-11-09T09:51:00.000-08:002010-11-09T09:51:34.749-08:00Halloween....a belated post.While Halloween is so yesterday's news, I have yet to recount our experiences. Let me start off by saying that Halloween is one of my least favorite holidays. This wasn't always the case. I loved dressing up. My mom was a master at putting together memorable costumes. I think I was six or seven when I was a Playboy Bunnie. The outfit was complete with a black leotard, high heels a tail and ears. Of course at the time, I had no concept of the scope of this costume, but looking back my mom certainly got a few cool points for that one. Then there was Cyndi Lauper, Madonna (two years in a row) and quite a few others. So, why it is that now Halloween is so boo-boring? <br />
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<span style="color: magenta;">She</span> is fortunate enough to have a cousin a few years older who has sported amazing costumes every year and we get the hand-me-downs. Score! This year the original plan was that <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> would be JoJo from JoJo's Circus (A children's series about a clown and her friends). The costume is precious. My mother in law (MIL) came over with the costume and <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> would not come within three feet of the limp suit. No way. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> wanted nothing to do with the Minnie Mouse dress as well. I was horrified. Has my distaste for Halloween worn off on <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>? Horrible mother. I could feel the heavens staring at me cursing my name. Bad mommy. <br />
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With a little convincing <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> gave into trying on the Minnie dress and <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> feel in love. Thank God. I thought I was going to be on the express flight to the island of bad moms. <br />
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For the next week <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> asked about Halloween. We talked about how people would come to our house and get candy. The first few time <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> balked at people taking <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> candy, but I was semi-successful in explaining the concept to <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> clearly has no recollection of last year's Halloween. <br />
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The big day arrived and all <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> could talk about was Halloween and candy and <strike>Mickey</strike> Minnie Mouse....<span style="color: magenta;">she</span> was getting the names mixed up. I felt like giving <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> cue cards, but <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> doesn't read yet so I had to scratch that idea. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> looked pretty cute. No one would care if <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> said <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> was Mickey. It almost made the costume cuter.<br />
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As we ventured out to our first few houses, I encouraged <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> to go up to the door, ring the bell and prompted <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> to say trick or treat when the door opened. Being that <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> is three (going on 13) I figured I'd stop prompting <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> got into the swing of things pretty quickly. Although <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> often said trick or treat before the door opened. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> would stand with <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> bag wide open, even after the candy was divvied out and the treating was over. On a few occasions, when the door opened, <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> walked right in the house and stood there waiting to be served. At one house after the candy was handed out, <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> reached in the bowl and grabbed a few extra handfuls. After each house <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> would turn <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> head and in the cutest little voice ask "can we do another one?"<br />
"Yes, we can do as many as you like."<br />
"Yipppeeee!" <br />
For one evening I had a guaranteed spot as an awesome mom. The next day when I would limit the amount of candy consumed and I was certain to go back to my usual spot as the 'no fun mom.'<br />
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As we rounded the block on our way back home, <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> announced to me that <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> had to go potty. I asked <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> if <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> could wait because we were almost home. As the door opened to the final house instead of saying trick or treat <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> switched it up with "I have to go potty." We all (the adults) laughed. <br />
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Oh to be three.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-30224895647929172062010-10-20T08:58:00.000-07:002010-10-20T09:08:15.178-07:00stopped<span style="color: black;">This morning I stopped. For three minutes I actually stopped. Stopped the running, the stress, the frustration. I stopped the madness that has become my life, for three minutes I stopped. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> had asked me to read it to <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> before. I've always said "We can do it later." </span><br />
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<span style="color: black;">I had just unbuckled her seat belt. Holding up the book and waving it back and forth, <span style="color: magenta;">she </span><span style="color: black;">asked "Mommy can we read this?"</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta;">She</span> was getting out of the truck. We were at daycare. I was already running late. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> wanted me to read <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> a book now? <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> wanted <strong>me</strong> to read <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> a book. <br />
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So I stopped. I sat on the tailgate and put <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> on my lap. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">I stopped and I read the book to <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">I put aside the frenzy that would be today. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">The craziness could/would wait. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">The meetings the phone calls. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">The mountain of paperwork. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">I let the <span style="color: blue;">boys</span> fuss while <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> and I had a moment. </span><br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5Dft9Uxrd5Biok9h1gRUAZQVfASr0Z-wTV9oi-lDH7vv48GVyvSxrm22VH41wgbTwXoIUKIZcI9s-GpjqE23G5ZMfxStSuUKhO6pWWR1CaBj58KMmRB9XkOoWLIVBisOFUcLE53nuialE/s1600/DSC_5709.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" ex="true" height="211" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5Dft9Uxrd5Biok9h1gRUAZQVfASr0Z-wTV9oi-lDH7vv48GVyvSxrm22VH41wgbTwXoIUKIZcI9s-GpjqE23G5ZMfxStSuUKhO6pWWR1CaBj58KMmRB9XkOoWLIVBisOFUcLE53nuialE/s320/DSC_5709.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><span style="color: black;">I let the cars go by, the kids stare and the minutes pass....hell, they were only minutes. <br />
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After the last page I closed the book and paused. In that moment I strained to remember the last time I had done that. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">Paused. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">Taken a moment. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">Let things sink in. </span><br />
<span style="color: black;">I tried to soak in <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> energy, <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> optimism, <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> "being". Of course <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> didn't quite <em>get</em> the moment. Perplexed <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> turned <span style="color: magenta;">her</span> head to look at me and said "Mommy, what are you doing? Are you crazy?"<br />
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<span style="color: magenta;">Her</span> honesty shocked me....as it usually does. <span style="color: magenta;">She's</span> not one to mince words. Clearly <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> can see right through me.<br />
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So today (because I can't guarantee that it will happen tomorrow) I will try to stop. Even if only for a second. </span>xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-68989394044344250162010-09-12T10:43:00.000-07:002010-09-12T10:44:37.715-07:00The Other SideThe transition from purchasing toddler clothing to girl clothing isn't exactly the worst thing. Hell, I've ridden bucking runaway horses and still lived to tell about it. But crossing the isle of the store from the baby section to the girl section can go on my list of scary s*&%.<br />
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<span style="color: magenta;">She </span>is not out of the toddler girls clothing section, but <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>limbs are so long that I have been purchasing clothing a few sizes larger. I was on a hunt for pants and was completely unsuccessful in the toddler girl section. Besides the fact that they all were a horrible pattern or white (Kids and white pants. WTF?), they were just too short.<br />
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Before I crossed, I looked both ways and took the four steps to the other side. The girls section was large, much larger than the toddler section. It was complete with overly inappropriate clothing and then very matronly clothing.Tube tops for a girl? Khaki pleated front slacks? Who designs this crap?<br />
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I wandered very slowly and tactfully as though I was creeping through a forest. Of course I realized this after I was half way through the section. I must have looked like a crazy person. I zigged and zagged through the racks. Past the dresses, shirts, pants, accessories. And then out of the corner of my eye, I saw something white. My stomach dropped. A training bra. Really? Say it isn't so.<br />
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I know that I constantly wish that <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>will grow up. Get to that point where <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>is self-sufficient. But can we skip the training bra phase?xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-39363064743611265512010-08-25T10:58:00.000-07:002010-08-25T10:58:13.184-07:00Fit ClubI feel like I have always been active. Gymnastics, ballet, tap and soccer as a kid. Horses for over a decade. After my equine retirement I was at a loss on how to stay fit. I first stepped into the gym at 23....before then the world was my playground (are you laughing at the fact that I just typed that? Well, I am. Ha ha!). But it's the truth. I always has a physical activity. Going to the gym had never entered my universe.<br />
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Being me, I found solace in the gym. My obsession was short lived, but while I was there I got in the best shape of my life. Then I met a great guy, dug into my new career, got married and had kids. Each live changer took time away from the gym and added a pound here and there. I always had my membership just in case I would end up with an extra hour....an extra hour? What a joke. <br />
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For a while I would make it to the gym at least three days a week. Then it trickled to two days, then one, and then once every two weeks. You get the idea. Something else always took priority....or maybe I just let other things become a priority...however ya wanna shake it, I wasn't making it to the gym. <br />
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I hurt my back a few weeks ago when I fell with one of the boys in my arm...sounds much more dramatic that it really was. The pain was bad and I limped to a new chiropractor to get a tune up.<br />
After a 15 minute download on my personal, physical and diet history, the doctor gave me my marching orders. Change your diet (no dairy, no meet, no gluten) to cure the every present ulcer and start exercising....chasing kids and cleaning up toys was not enough. Time....couldn't you have written me a prescription for more time? Just one extra hour?<br />
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I had been waking up at 4am (truth) to get some work items done. So, why not exercise then? Well, CPS usually frowns on leaving the kids alone for extended periods of time. I was on a mission to find something that I could do at home. What comes to mind first when working out in your living room? The horrors of Jane Fonda or Sweating to the oldies VHS tapes. I can't do that. My ego has enough bruises. Richard Simmons would be the beginning of my complete demise. Next I'd be shopping QVC late nights hoping for a great deal on Quacker Factory clothing. FML.<br />
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I had heard of the P90X thing for a while. The infomercials showed fit people working out and getting more fit. But where were the chubby kids? Where were the soft people? The round shape club? Well, when my box of P90X tricks arrived in the mail, I quickly found out. <br />
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Getting down to business I completely ignored the note about taking a fit test before hand. Fit test? I'll be fine. 12 CD's complete with a calendar to track your progress. Let's get it on!!!<br />
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The first day I didn't have much time so I decided to do the shortest CD. Ab Ripper X. This guy Tony who is in amazing shape appears on the TV screen...remember its before 5am. So chipper people are frowned upon. He doesn't mess around. We did something like 349 ab/core exercises in less than 15 minutes. No breaks, no water, no messing around. It was hell. I looked like a fish flopping on the carpet. I cursed at this Tony dude at least a dozen times as he and his disciples effortlessly crunched and flexed their ripped bodies. P90X isn't for fat kids....it's for fit people....I am not a fit person...yet.<br />
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My hip flexors (muscles at the top of your thigh, right where your thigh meets your hip) were so sore that while driving I could not lift my leg from the gas petal to the break with out crying out in pain. She would comment "what's wrong? Why are you making that noise?"<br />
"My legs hurt."<br />
"Do you need a bandaide?" <br />
I wish it was that easy.<br />
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Two days later I did plyometrics aka jump training....I could barely walk down a slight incline. It was horror. I continue to curse Tony each time I see his smug mug on the TV screen. Two days ago I did Kenpo X...basically a lot of Karate kicks and punches. I can barely straighten my arms. Tomorrow I will tackle another CD...what can I say, I am a bit of a masochist.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-8765868778840912562010-08-02T05:49:00.000-07:002010-08-02T05:49:08.200-07:00Surprise"Where are you going <span style="color: #38761d;">Papa</span>?"<br />
"I have to go to work."<br />
"Oh..."<br />
<span style="color: #38761d;">He </span>left the room and <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>looked sad.<br />
"It's okay. <span style="color: #38761d;">He</span>'ll be back later. I promise."<br />
"<span style="color: black;">I </span>gonna miss <span style="color: #38761d;">him</span>."<br />
For me, tears. Only two, but still how adorable.<br />
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When <span style="color: #38761d;">he </span>came back in the room to say goodbye, <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>told <span style="color: #38761d;">him </span>"<span style="color: #38761d;">Papa</span>, I gonna miss you."<br />
My eyes started weeping. <span style="color: #38761d;">He </span>looked at <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>and said "When I come back, I will bring <span style="color: magenta;">you </span>and your <span style="color: blue;">brothers </span>a surprise."<br />
Bum, bum, bum.....big mistake mister. "You'd better hold true to your word." I warned.<br />
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As the day went by, references to this "surprise" were hourly. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>threw it into every conversation.<br />
"If I finish my breakfast Papa will bring me a surprise."<br />
"If I finish my lunch and take nap, Papa will bring me a surprise."<br />
I thought about calling him to remind <span style="color: #38761d;">him</span>, but figured <span style="color: #38761d;">he </span>made <span style="color: #38761d;">his </span>bed....<span style="color: #38761d;">he </span>can sleep in it.<br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">His </span>truck pulled up, and as usual the dogs started whining. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>went crazy. Leaping and clapping <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>hands. Papa was home. The "surprise" was within <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>reach. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>dove out the garage door. "Papa, Papa do you have my surprise?"<br />
<span style="color: #38761d;">His </span>face went blank. <span style="color: #38761d;">His </span>heart sank...or at least I hope it did, because my heart sank.<br />
<span style="color: #38761d;">He </span>mouthed "Oh, shit!"<br />
<span style="color: magenta;">She </span>continued quizzing him, "Papa, do you have my surprise?" "Where is my surprise?"<br />
<span style="color: #38761d;">He </span>thought fast (kinda dumb, but fast) and handed <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>a water bottle. Nice work slick. <br />
"Mommy, look at my surprise."<br />
I was less than impressed and so was <span style="color: magenta;">she</span>. <br />
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But <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>quickly realized that a water bottle is not a surprise. The questionning continued. "Papa, Papa, you said you would bring a surprise?"<br />
"I didn't think <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>would remember." <br />
Clearly, <span style="color: #38761d;">he </span>has not listened to my stories.....sucker. That will teach you.<br />
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Each time <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>asked it was like a knife to <span style="color: #38761d;">his </span>heart. I thought about letting <span style="color: #38761d;">him </span>suffer. But <span style="color: #38761d;">his </span>suffering was also <span style="color: #38761d;">her </span>suffering...and I just couldn't handle <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>desperate tone. So I bailed <span style="color: #38761d;">him </span>out. <span style="color: #38761d;">He </span>became the hero of the night as <span style="color: #38761d;">he </span>unveiled a Toy Story 3 toy with Jessie and Bullseye that I had picked up a few weeks ago. <span style="color: #38761d;">He</span> was a hero...in <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>mind. In my mind, well, let's just say neener, neener, neener....I told you so.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-29077339718704301542010-07-29T05:11:00.000-07:002010-07-29T05:11:30.492-07:00two secondsTwo seconds. Practically the speed of light.<br />
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When <span style="color: blue;">they </span>are "loose" I can't take my eyes off <span style="color: blue;">them </span>for more than two seconds. We have baby gates and cabinet door locks and deadbolts and outlet covers. We have done our due diligence when it comes to toddler proofing our house. But the lure of the kitchen table and chairs is clearly much to tempting. <span style="color: blue;">They </span>look at the top of the kitchen table as though it were Everest. And me, I am the unrelenting weather keeping <span style="color: blue;">them</span> from the summit. Everest takes weeks if not months to climb. The kitchen table takes two seconds.<br />
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Now you may ask, what do <span style="color: blue;">they </span>do when they get on the table? Answer, <span style="color: blue;">they </span>just sit. The accomplishment of making it to the top is enough entertainment. That is until <span style="color: blue;">they </span>find the napkins or place mats. Who doesn't like snacking on a paper napkin or wiping your snotty noise on a place mat?<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgToqPETVSM-YysWeWX6aMklAF6FLT6p-K5Kg-zqnAhHTIlEP_R8ja5LEHzrMedv2PgaC80n2xl553b47q0JydJLYUSrNYLDM55G_xV7MBo81Iw-p6IMwxsan-mfzbWZX9ONZTv8VqA2XGF/s1600/DSC_0868.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgToqPETVSM-YysWeWX6aMklAF6FLT6p-K5Kg-zqnAhHTIlEP_R8ja5LEHzrMedv2PgaC80n2xl553b47q0JydJLYUSrNYLDM55G_xV7MBo81Iw-p6IMwxsan-mfzbWZX9ONZTv8VqA2XGF/s320/DSC_0868.JPG" /></a></div>Is it a big deal that <span style="color: blue;">they </span>get on the table? No.<br />
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Are <span style="color: blue;">they </span>causing any harm? Other than the poor trees that died for the napkins, No.<br />
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But with two of <span style="color: blue;">them </span>on the table at once, the odds of one falling off and cracking <span style="color: blue;">their </span>head open is drastically increased. And while I am the first one to go with the theory that <span style="color: blue;">they </span>would probably never get on the table again, falling off a table is a bit extreme.<br />
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An unlikely lookout, <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>takes pride in tattling on <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>brothers. So when I have to use the little girls room, <span style="color: magenta;">she's</span> on duty. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>takes <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>hall monitor job very seriously and <span style="color: magenta;">she's</span> actually pretty good at it, which scares me. <br />
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If you have ever timed yourself, two seconds is about as long as it takes to unbutton your pants. It takes much longer to actually "use" the little girls room. My timing is crutial. Like Tom Cruise in Mission Impossible crutial. Mess it up and I might pee my pants. By the end of the night, I have pulled out all the stops - passing off all the distractions I can find. Remote controls, hats, bags and tupperwear. A girls gotta do, what a girls gotta do.<br />
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Some of you may ask, where is <span style="color: #274e13;">he</span>? Can't <span style="color: #274e13;">he </span>watch the gremlins while you use the facilities? Well of course <span style="color: #274e13;">he</span> could. But a full work load for the last few months has almost turned me into a single parent. Except, this is like being a single parent with a ghost who leaves socks on the ground inches from the laundry basket and dishes in the sink. The last couple of weeks have been hard. Really hard. And I try to keep my moments to myself, or at least out of the sight of the kids. But I am not perfect.<br />
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On a particularly hard day, I lost it. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>was in a mood and <span style="color: blue;">they </span>clearly sensed my weakness. At 5:30pm I was ready for them to go to bed. I knew it would be a very long hour and half. By 6:15pm I was cracking. After a marathon list of questions from <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>, I asked <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>to watch <span style="color: magenta;">her </span><span style="color: blue;">brothers </span>while I slipped away. Within seconds <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>was whining and <span style="color: blue;">they </span>were sprinting for the table. I yelled "Two seconds! Can I have two seconds?" Of course it did no good. <span style="color: magenta;">Her </span>bantering continued and <span style="color: blue;">they </span>relented on their ascent. 7pm was so very far away.<br />
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Yesterday morning during the madness of getting ready, an act that truly does resemble herding cats, <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>was busy hoarding books into a box. The purpose of doing so? Only <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>knows.<br />
I said, "Okay. It's your turn to get dressed."<br />
"No."<br />
"We have to get you dressed, so that we can go. Mommy has to go to work and don't you want to go play?"<br />
<span style="color: magenta;">She </span>let out a huge sigh (<span style="color: magenta;">she </span>gets that from me). "Mommy, can I have two seconds? I'm really busy."<br />
It took everything I had to not smile......and cry.<br />
Shoot me now.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-70827710993601584232010-07-26T06:34:00.000-07:002010-07-26T06:41:25.941-07:00It needs to come home with meIt had been sometime since I had visited the red bulls-eye mecca. I love/hate that place. Go in with a goal of three things. Leave with a cart full of impulse buys. Damn you Target.<br />
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The dollar racks caught me right as I walked in the door. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>ran over to the racks with determination. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> didn't know it, but the racks were calling to <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>....just like they call to me. Of course I found $10 worth of crap that the <strike>mommy</strike> kids HAD to have. My rationalization....it's only a dollar. What's the harm. Plus, I don't have to "round down" the price when <span style="color: #274e13;">he </span>asks how much it costs. <br />
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I snapped myself out of the dollar high and headed back to the shoes department - the entire purpose of walking into this place.<br />
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Stay focused.<br />
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Stupid me, I took the long way around which put me right by the home decor...crap. Thankfully the <span style="color: blue;">boys </span>(one buckled in the seat and the other loose in the basket - hold your judgments - what was I supposed to do? those stupid two seated crazy limo cards are a recipe for disaster) decided to play "who can grab at the fragile stuff the fastest." I hightailed it out of home decor and made it to the shoes unscathed.<br />
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I refrained from gagging at the sequin covered mary-janes and the action figure sneakers. Really? Where are all the regular shoes? As I was cursing the red bulls-eye for not having what I came here for, <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>came over with a rolling backpack. Not just any rolling backpack - this was a princess rolling back pack. Pink with princesses and a complete piece of junk.<br />
"What do you have?"<br />
"A pack-pack."<br />
"Yeah? What are you going to do with that?"<br />
<span style="color: magenta;">She </span>looked up at me "It NEEDS to come home with me."<br />
And with complete elation I wanted to crouch down and say "I know! Stuff talks to you right? The stuff you absolutely love. It talks to you! It happens to me too."<br />
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But like a good <strike>mom</strike> role model, I told <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>that we could not get it today. Maybe another day. Then I went on to tell <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>, and show <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>, that it was not made very well and would fall apart. That 26 bucks for that piece of junk was a joke. We would get <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>a good rolling back pack (sans princesses - thank god) from Pottery Barn. They were way cuter and better quality. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>wanted nothing to do with my speech and had already begun to pack <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>pack-pack with shoes from the rack. Clearly <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>had <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>heart set on the backpack....I had to hold back from saying "I know sister. Parting with an item is hard."<br />
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I am still not sure how it worked, but I managed to convince <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>that the back pack was not meant to be. We put it away and said good bye. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>patted the backpack and said "I see you soon. You come home with me soon."<br />
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It occurred to me as we were driving home and <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>was chatting about <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>beloved "pack-pack", that while a bird & the bees conversation is required, clearly a discussion on parting with super awesome Target bounty would come first.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-60646267065229144432010-07-10T15:40:00.000-07:002010-07-26T06:41:49.609-07:00It happenedI knew it would happen eventually but I figured I'd be older....like 40...40ish.<br />
In fact, I did not even know that it happened. The actual "happening" occurred sometime ago and I just realized it.<br />
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It was a Thursday morning. I know that because I remember being exhausted which contributed to my self loathing. The gal sitting next to me was probably 30ish....my age. We were sitting next to each other and she bent over in her chair to grab something from her purse. The way she jolted when she dove down caused me to glance over. There it was in plain sight. Her Victoria's Secret thong underwear. I know that because I have the same pair. At the moment I saw the top of her thong peaking out the top of her pants it hit me. I no longer wore thongs. I no longer wore cute underwear. I wore.....drum roll...comfortable underwear! Shit. Seriously? When did this happen? Comfortable underwear?<br />
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I started to sweat realizing that I couldn't remember the last time I wore sexy underwear...actually the last time I really felt sexy. Her we go....so what's next? Only practical shoes? Short hair because it's easier? Mom Jeans? I know that I am still young and I look young and I definetly still act young. But seriously? I have always preached that I was not going to let "that" happen. Now, don't get me wrong I did not go from thong to granny panties that could be used as a schrug. But am I on that path? Is this how it goes? Is this the progression of underwear? <br />
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I decided to run home (cause I guess I had nothing else to do) and fix this situation. I quickly changed from my black panties to a thong. Did I immediately feel my youth was back? Hell no. Did I feel sexier....uh, let's not go there. I threw my pants back on and walked back out the door with my head held high. I slid into the driver's seat and woop....the thong was certainly back (for those of you who have or do wear thongs you know what I mean). Okay......Quick adjustment and I drove away.<br />
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The day transpired as usual. While putting <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>to bed, I bent down to pick up something and <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>was behind me. My baggy sweats (sexy) had slipped down so the inevitable thong peek was in full effect. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>said to me "Mommy what happen to your panties? Are they broken?"<br />
Of course I laughed. How could I not?<br />
"No, they are not broken. But thank you for noticing."<br />
"Your welcome." <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>replied and jumped into bed.<br />
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The thongs are out of retirement. The panties are in the bull pen and it's only a matter of time before they will be back in the game.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-25769693202329528932010-06-27T10:05:00.001-07:002010-06-27T10:33:58.591-07:00the thirtieth<span xmlns=""></span><br />
<span xmlns="">The guilt pang…or in my case pangs…have been unyielding. The pangs should be from my failed attempts to become a somewhat "Green" home, or not sending out thank you notes within the 30 day etiquette window. Hell, who am I kidding? My guilt list could go on for days. Blogging has been on my to-do list for weeks; Right next to folding laundry and existing. Blogging is important to me, but clearly the task of existing is taking priority. Each morning as I wake around 4am, sit at my computer and begin working I silently lament about how I haven't blogged for weeks…months by now. I blog in my head daily but getting those thoughts on paper, well, there just aren't enough hours in the day and my requests for more hours have gone unanswered.<br />
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<span xmlns="">As many of you know I started my own wine compliance consulting business. In short, I assist wineries to obtain and maintain the city, county, state and federal licenses required to be a winery or to sell wine. Three kids, an already full plate, why not start my own business that will occupy each moment of my time not spend cleaning, cooking and wiping asses? The fact that I have not been blogging is a sign that things have been busy. Really busy. <br />
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<span xmlns="">The flexibility is wonderful, but the work is double if not triple of what I was doing before. Top that all off with two <span style="color: blue;">toddlers </span>and an excessively energetic, smart, stubborn, opinionated <span style="color: magenta;">three </span>year old, a household and a <span style="color: #38761d;">husband</span> who has been working just as hard. It is certainly a recipe for….well...a lot of tears, frustration and many deep, deep sighs. But I wouldn't go back. Not for a million dollars…maybe billions though.<br />
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<span xmlns="">Looking back at my last posts, those thoughts were eons ago. Yet, time has passed so quickly. The <span style="color: blue;">boys </span>are busy bees. Constantly fighting and bickering. Stealing toys and pulling each other down. <span style="color: blue;">Their </span>personalities are certainly starting to shine through. "A" is very vocal. <span style="color: blue;">He </span>has a lot to say without saying much. Each sentence of gibberish is a declaration. And failure to agree will certainly cause <span style="color: blue;">him </span>to continue <span style="color: blue;">his </span>monologue. "B" is mister cuddle bug. Sit on the ground, <span style="color: blue;">he </span>is sure to stand right in front of you, turn, back up and plop <span style="color: blue;">himself </span>in your lap regardless of what you want or think you want. <span style="color: magenta;"> She </span>is, well, <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>is a test of patience. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span>'s three. Someone said to me the other day that the terrible threes are almost as bad as the terrible twos. I am not so sure. I have a feeling it will be the terrible everything. <span style="color: #38761d;">He </span>asked me the other day, "what's wrong with <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>?" My reply "<span style="color: magenta;">She</span>'s three and some day <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>will be thirteen and then sixteen. We are screwed." <span style="color: magenta;"> </span></span><br />
<span xmlns=""><span style="color: magenta;">She </span>yelled at a bike rider (from the car) that he had to put his helmet on or he would be in big trouble. <span style="color: magenta;">She</span> told me the other day, after one of the boys accidentally hit me in the face with a toy, that I should tell my papa so that the baby can go on a time out. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>talks to me with <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>hands on <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>hips. <span style="color: #38761d;">His </span>daughter.<br />
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<span xmlns="">But <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>also the source of so much laughter. While in the bathroom brushing <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>teeth, and doing <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>best to avoid the task, <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>was pointing out the usage of each item on the counter. Soap is for washing hands, lotion is for arms, and the spray is for <span style="color: #38761d;">papa</span>'s poop. "<span style="color: #38761d;">He </span>stinks." I almost wet myself trying not to laugh. </span><br />
<span xmlns="">Telling me each morning that <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>loves my hair regardless of the condition and telling me each night that <span style="color: magenta;">she</span> loves my eyes. Dark bags, wrinkles and all.<br />
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<span xmlns="">I wish I could catalog all of <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>antics…they would fill a book. Probably only a book a mother would love and <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>would hate.<br />
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<span xmlns="">I can give no guarantee on my blogging frequency. But the lack there of is certainly a sign that my plate is full and the laundry is still unfolded. </span><br />
<span xmlns=""></span>xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-68095898076011987382010-04-29T22:15:00.000-07:002010-04-29T22:15:03.314-07:00the twenty-ninethI am purging.....don't worry I am not an alcoholic or bulimic. Mostly baby and kid stuff. Clothing, strollers, shoes, equipment....a lot of stuff. It is time to let go of all the <i>s&^t</i> that is cluttering closets, spare rooms and of course the man cave (garage). Heaven forbid something other than a saw, ATV or "very important tool" (a real quote) occupy the family garage. See how I put family garage, but it is really <span style="color: #274e13;">his </span>garage. Don't tell <span style="color: #274e13;">him </span>I said that....<br />
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During this process of purging and sorting I found myself getting sad as I would cart handfuls of clothing and random equipment I had forgotten about to the living room of our house. And for a few days I could not figure out what was wrong with me. Why was I so sad. Purging is great. Everyone should purge. It's rejuvenating. But this was different. I would feel fine, then I would sort through the huge pile of stuff that has almost taken over our living room and I would feel horrible.<br />
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Tonight chardonnay and I (I already told you I am not an alcoholic....but chard is a great friend. Usually comes out on Friday's, but it was a busy day) were sorting through a huge, huge mound of clothing. I felt my body begin to tense, my lip quiver and a tear run down my face. I sat down and I cried. I realized that the horrible feeling was sadness. A lot of sadness. While I love a good purge, this purge is different. It's the baby stuff from MY babies. It's not old tupperwear, or old clothes, or towels. It's MY babies stuff. Each piece has a memory attached....well, maybe not each piece but it sure feels that way. My babies don't wear those little tiny socks any more. Or the dress with the adorable hat. Or the little red shoes - so tiny. And my twins (my who the ___ would have thought we would end up with twins) no longer wear those little sleepers or hats or matching jeans stamped with "my first denim" on the pocket. They are too big for that stuff. They are not babies. They are toddlers. The purge is a good bye to babyhood. I have never been much of a fan of letting go and saying good bye. This is a hard process.<br />
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And as I cried all I could remember is the cute little, cuddly babies. MY cute, cuddly babies. The memories of sleepless nights with a screaming child who seems to be completely inconsolable, which then makes mommy inconsolable, and then <span style="color: #274e13;">he </span>has to deal with two (or three) bumbling idiots in the middle of the night....you get where I am going with this. But at the moment of purging I can only remember the ups of MY babies. The lows....well, I guess I purged those too. The lows are probably at the bottom of the box with the newborn onesies. Folded, priced and ready to be sold to the highest bidder.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-48983816471236408102010-04-27T08:54:00.000-07:002010-04-27T08:54:58.505-07:00the twenty-eighthMy name is mommy and I am a liar and <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>is on to me. <span style="color: magenta;"></span><br />
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This morning <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>asks "Mommy is that your medicine?" pointing to my morning ritual of drinking a liquid shake and fibbing because I don't really want to share.<br />
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"Yes, that is my medicine."<br />
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"Oh," <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>replies "you sure like your medicine."<br />
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<span style="color: magenta;">She </span>skipped away, and then came back about seven seconds later. "<span style="color: #274e13;">Papa </span>likes his medicine too."<br />
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"Which medicine does <span style="color: #274e13;">Papa </span>like?" I replied.<br />
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"I show you." <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>went to the pantry, opened the door and pointed. "<span style="color: #274e13;">Papa </span>likes those medicines."<br />
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<span style="color: magenta;">She </span>had pointed to the Red Vine licorice.<br />
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Clearly <span style="color: #274e13;">he </span>is a liar too.<br />
Our names are mommy and <span style="color: #274e13;">papa </span>and we are liars.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-41861180477072832442010-04-16T11:01:00.000-07:002010-04-16T11:01:43.109-07:00the twenty-seventhThis week was challenging. Certainly a test in the balancing act of being a self-employed, <a href="http://www.dhwinecompliance.blogspot.com/">working at home</a> mother of three small children, primary home keeper-upper. While pounding the keys (of the computer) the laundry is calling. The dishes are anxiously awaiting my arrival (how sweet) and the floor is cussing at me. Seriously. <br />
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The voice in the back of my head is making me feel guilty. Telling me I should be a better house keeper and tend to the chores in more timely manner. Well, Mr. Back of My Head (it is a mister because a woman would not throw this kind of guilt trip) let me tell you something......and the conversation goes on.<br />
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I did no better cleaning my house when I wasn't working at home. But the fact that I do frolic into the kitchen periodically through the day and walk past the piles of unfolded laundry at least 11 times a day seems to hit a bit of a nerve....although it seems to be my issue. No one else (my wonderful <span style="color: #274e13;">husband </span>included) seem to notice. I hate, hate, hate a dirty house. It actually stresses me out. But some days (and past weeks) I just don't have the time. These days, I have no time. Although the irony is that instead of writing this blog, I could be cleaning...nah. <br />
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I decided to make time. I made a list (my favorite past time) and gave myself one chore for each day. Today is Friday. I did one of the chores.....Shit. It's sunny today and who wants to spend it cleaning toilets and folding laundry? If you do, let me know. I'll leave the cleaner on the counter. Your welcome. I'll be at lunch with a friend having an adult beverage.<br />
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So the balancing act continues. Maybe I should quit my job and go apply at the circus.....xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-6091200329727421392010-04-15T16:20:00.001-07:002010-04-15T16:20:44.117-07:00fiction deux<span xmlns=''><p><em>This is another "creation" from my fiction writing class. I thought long and hard about even posting this for the world to see. And while that may sound a bit, well, pompous, I was/am concerned about the reaction of those who read it. <br /></em></p><p><em>I learned a lot from this writing class. A lot, lot, lot. And surprising (to me)a lot on many different levels. The most shocking was that while writing fiction your mind, emotions and subconscious will take you to places you never thought were inside. Places you never thought existed inside you. <br /></em></p><p><em>Wake up call. Those places do exist. Clearly.<br /></em></p><p><em>This story is completely fiction. Mom, dad…I am not an alcoholic. Promise.<br /></em></p><p><em>Enjoy <br /></em></p><p><em>~A<br /></em></p><p><br /> </p><p>She stared at the bottle with disgust. That damn bottle ruined her life. Now all she had was that bottle. Everything else. Gone.<br /></p><p>She knew going in that it might be dangerous. She knew the risks. She knew herself well enough. But she did it anyway. That first day seemed so long ago. After four long years she was gonna try again. Sober. What a horrible word. But she had to give it a whirl. Give it a go. <br /></p><p>She sat there aching. Her insides eating themselves. Her brain churning. Someone make it stop. Staring at the bottle made it worse, but nothing else made it better. On this day, this hour, this minute what choice did she have? Was her pain worse than the pain she had caused? Would one more sip really make it worse?<br /></p><p>Without thinking her left hand lifted from her lap. Fingers pointing outward. An unknown force drew her hand towards the warmth of the bottle. Square in shape, her hand could only wrap around part way. With the first touch she instantly recalled the smooth glass. Her knuckles turned white as her hold increased. Her bicep flexed and the bottom of the bottle lifted from the ottoman. <br /></p><p>The glass touched her lips, she tipped the body of the bottle upwards. The brown liquid trickled into her mouth. The whisky burned when it hit her throat. The sensation was replaced by the orgasmic wave of warmth flowing through her body.<br /></p><p>She tipped the bottle back down but only long enough for her thoughts to wander and as they did she quickly turned the bottle back up to the heavens and allowed her throat to swallow and swallow; to swallow all the liquid warmth, to swallow the pain, the discontent, the grief, the sorrow, the hatred. She swallowed. The more she swallowed the more she forgot. The more she forgot the more she swallowed.<br /></p><p>Finally replacing the bottle, now empty, back to its original position, she absorbed the love from that bottle. But the bottle was empty and now the bottle was talking. The bottle was judging. The bottle would tattle. The bottle would expose their little secret. The empty bottle no longer loved her. <br /></p><p>"Such is life and I am a royal fuck up. Well, better to be a royal fuck up than just a fuck up. Being a royal makes it better right?" she rambled to the bottle.<br /></p><p>"Say something you son of a bitch! Go ahead judge. Judge me. But you don't know. You don't know where I have been. What I have dealt with. Your life has been so simple and now you have the audacity to judge me. Bastard." She paced back and forth. <br /></p><p>The stomping around rattled the empty bottle. It now sat precariously on the edge of the leather ottoman. The ottoman only inches from the sliding glass door of her apartment. Her words turned to sobs, but she continued to pace. Back and forth, back and forth. And so rocked the empty bottle back and forth, back and forth.</p></span>xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-75180969011549937192010-04-01T16:04:00.003-07:002010-04-15T16:26:56.900-07:00fiction une<i><span xmlns="">I have never been one to write fiction....fiction is fake...its all lies. Well, not really. I guess I just always thought the truth was more interesting to write. </span></i><br />
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<i><span xmlns="">I recently started a short term fiction writing class. This is one of the pieces I wrote that received great feedback from the class. </span></i><br />
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<span xmlns="">We liked our coffee strong. Hers with a splash of creamer but just enough to transform the dark silk into a light mocha. However on the weekends she added a knife full of home harvested honey. Mine, just black. No matter the day. Always black.<br />
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<span xmlns="">We always sat face to face looking up from our laptops only long enough to periodically wink at each other. She browsed the web while I researched. She caught up with friends on Facebook while I read the latest on healthcare reform.<br />
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<span xmlns="">It was cold that morning. Snowing actually. The first snow of the season. I could hear the snow plows in the background. They certainly wouldn't make it down this way for a day or so. Just as long as the power and cable were on, we'd be fine. <br />
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<span xmlns="">The knock at the door startled us as no one ventured down this far. Only us locals took the journey. The knock was sharp. Intense. I'd been glancing outside periodically that morning and I hadn't seen anyone come up the drive. We both looked up at the third knock. The usual suspects would have come in after the first.<br />
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<span xmlns="">Without words she decided that I should be the one to fetch the door. Begrudgingly I slowly unfolded myself from the breakfast nook and lumbered towards the front of the house. My knees crackling with each step. They had never been the same since the accident.<br />
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<span xmlns="">As I grabbed for the door handle another knock raddled the stained glass. She hollered from the kitchen. Her words inaudible. Ya, ya. I thought to myself knowing what she said without hearing her words. <br />
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<span xmlns="">I turned the knob and made a mental note that I needed to replace the threshold on the back door. The damn draft was getting worse. <br />
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<span xmlns="">I tilted my head up just slightly. Only enough to see the shoes. Right off, I knew something was amiss. <br />
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<span xmlns="">I was 21 when I left home. My mother had raised my older brother and I after that guy left us two days after my fifth birthday. She was never the same. The shame kept her in the house 23 hours a day. She would venture outside, no matter the weather, everyday at 3am. We joked that she was like the US postal service. Neither wind, rain or snow would keep her. It wasn't funny. It was sad. Really sad. If we'd had more family, I am sure someone would have committed her, but no other family existed. Just my brother and I. What did we know? My brother, only three years my senior was just entering the girl obsession stage. To him, my mother was a burden, already. For me, I did my best to make sure that she stayed clean, fed and smiled. Getting my mother to smile was a daily chore. Just like cooking, cleaning, folding laundry. It was just part of my day. We all existed in that house, full of memories until the day my brother turned 16 and he got his license. We never saw him again.<br />
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<span xmlns="">The smell of strong coffee in the background brought me back to present day. Standing on our front stoop he looked old. Really old. It might have been the overcoat and cap, but the years had not treated him well. The creases in his forehead and corners of his eyes were deep. His eyes seemed grayer than I remember and his teeth matched the snowy background. </span><br />
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<span xmlns=""></span>xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-84997746261953815692010-03-25T09:03:00.000-07:002010-03-25T09:06:12.984-07:00the twenty-sixthMs. <span style="color: magenta;">Demi</span>,<br />
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Happy Third Birthday!!!!!<br />
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkiWLHNmzJ__qsYgoEGyJWmOM3BE-rfEXv-GUsYqJpE0kiBp6TKyrNUaQQNFtbL0TVVLFi40EabxOiuYwq95YnduRGYOOubhgLtgqkkoI2orofvU1UJ_fDbKj8zskINjvkQiPjloI8RQdY/s1600/1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="265" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkiWLHNmzJ__qsYgoEGyJWmOM3BE-rfEXv-GUsYqJpE0kiBp6TKyrNUaQQNFtbL0TVVLFi40EabxOiuYwq95YnduRGYOOubhgLtgqkkoI2orofvU1UJ_fDbKj8zskINjvkQiPjloI8RQdY/s400/1.jpg" width="400" /></a>Today, three years ago, our lives changed. And while there are times where I would gladly post <span style="color: magenta;">you </span>in the freebies section of Craig's List, <span style="color: magenta;">you </span>have given me gifts that I can never repay. Never.<br />
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Someday <span style="color: magenta;">you </span>will read this blog and will probably disown me for a few months, maybe even years. But I hope this blog shows <span style="color: magenta;">you </span>how much humor <strike>frustration </strike><span style="color: magenta;">you </span>have brought to our lives. <span style="color: magenta;">You </span>have shown me things that I could never imagine. <span style="color: magenta;">You </span>have taught me things about myself and about life that one cannot learn by reading a book or taking a class or browsing the interwebs. As my child,<br />
I am <span style="color: magenta;">your </span>mother, but <span style="color: magenta;">you </span>my sweet,<br />
darling, amazing girl, are my teacher.<br />
Thank you.<br />
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Happy Birthday!<br />
Love,<br />
MomxoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-42033191582686707612010-03-19T14:36:00.000-07:002010-03-19T14:36:09.291-07:00the twenty-fifth<span style="color: blue;">They </span>are a year now, so <span style="color: blue;">their </span>antics are now open for blogging.....have to make it a fair game. Might as well embarrass all of them so that the level of hatred is even among my children.<br />
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<span style="color: blue;">They </span>are drunk gnomes. Drunk wandering gnomes. The act of walking is so exciting to <span style="color: blue;">them</span>. So much so that <span style="color: blue;">they </span>usually fall because <span style="color: blue;">they </span>are so happy. Wow, I wish I remembered when life was so simple.<br />
I had been threatening to <strike>push <span style="color: blue;">them </span>down</strike> swoop <span style="color: blue;">them </span>up when <span style="color: blue;">they </span>took <span style="color: blue;">their </span>first steps, as it would be an official sign of my life ending. Over. No longer mine. Complete.madness. But so far it's not that bad. It could be worse.<br />
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As a result of <span style="color: blue;">their </span>decision (or mother natures decision) to walk, our house has become a bit like Fort Knox. Gates, locks, guards, special passwords, handshakes...well maybe the last few are a stretch, but you catch my drift.<br />
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Nothing is safe. The other day <span style="color: blue;">they </span>pulled down the round side table. Let me repeat that,...... <span style="color: blue;">they </span>pull down the the round side table. While no one was hurt, the loud crash did not deter them much. <span style="color: blue;">They </span>were back at it within minutes. I have affectionately named <span style="color: blue;">them </span>Hummingbird Moving Company (thank you Becky C) because <span style="color: blue;">they </span>rearrange the kitchen chairs (yes, you are reading that correctly), <span style="color: blue;"></span>push or shove on anything that is in <span style="color: blue;">their </span>way and when there is no movement <span style="color: blue;">they </span>get so so so so frustrated. I laugh at <span style="color: blue;">them </span>which just seems to fuel <span style="color: blue;">their </span>fire. Awesome. <br />
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When gates block <span style="color: blue;">their </span>entry, <span style="color: blue;">they </span>shake it back and forth. If you impede <span style="color: blue;">their </span>forward motion, you'd better watch yourself. <span style="color: blue;">They </span>are one year old and <span style="color: blue;">they </span>are bad to the bone. Holler!xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-16984751611132966432010-03-19T14:12:00.000-07:002010-03-19T14:12:50.410-07:00the twenty-fourth<span style="color: magenta;">She </span>will be three and <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>still poops her pants. Not little cute turds. We are talking emptying bowels....yes, it's disgusting. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>is just about potty trained with peeing, but pooping...OMG...<span style="color: magenta;">she </span>is a challenging child. Lord help me and forgive me for all my sins. I surrender.<br />
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When I was a kid we had a dog who ate the crotch out of dirty underwear....again, yes, it was just plain disgusting. He was obsessed...he was a strange dog. Anyhow, in an attempt to get him not to eat the underwear, we would tie the underwear around his neck. It was supposed to shame him. However, looking back I think it probably did the opposite. He flaunted his "treasure" (barf) for the world to see. I don't remember if the technique worked, but it certainly has potential.<br />
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The point of this is, <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>had just finished <strike>telling </strike>screaming that <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>did not have to go on the <b><span style="font-size: large;">POTTY!!!</span></b> At the time I was just not in the mood to deal with it. Fine. Get of the potty and go play in the street (just kidding...sorta). Minutes later.....<span style="color: magenta;">she </span>emptied herself. I mean every ounce was no longer in <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>body and was in <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>underwear. Awesome. Women with teenage daughters sent them on over for a little lesson we will call birth control. <br />
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I saw red. All red. Will this ever end? Will <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>be pooping <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>pants till <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>is in school and kids make fun of <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>? Will <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>be know as the poopy girl? Will I make it through this? I have two more kids to potty train...<br />
After feeling secure that I was not going to strangle <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>. I took <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>upstairs and cleaned <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>up. While I was holding back the urge to gag, I was doing a quick list (I heart lists. Physical and mental lists) of the tactics we has already tried and have not tried. While some techniques might work they probably are too mean and not very sanitary (don't ask), but that stupid dog and his underwear eating came to my mind.....let's face it some times lists lead us in the wrong direction. <br />
With all the noise and the extremely nosy-tattle tail neighbor I won't be surprised when child protective services comes 'a knocking. And something tells me it won't go to well when <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>skips to the CPS agent with shitty underwear around <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>neck. I can picture it now.....<span style="color: magenta;">she </span>will tell the agent "my mommy put my poopy panties around my neck." I'll be in the background disheveled, red faced with a glass of chard....mom of the year.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272874467239793164.post-41489565247188398412010-02-23T15:42:00.000-08:002010-02-23T15:52:32.419-08:00the twenty-thirdTomorrow <span style="color: blue;">they </span>will be one. Tomorrow marks the day our family size grew by two more bodies within minutes. Tomorrow will be the day that we, as a family, will look back and celebrate how far we have come.<br />
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While getting to this point wasn't easy. There were times when I cried, when I screamed and when I laughed because there just was nothing else to do. If someone asked me if I would do it again, I would easily reply "Of Course."<br />
The rewards are greater than the challenges. <br />
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I am so very thankful and forever indebted to those that supported us. Whether with hands-on help or just words of encouragement. I could not have made it with out you. And I am so, so, so very thankful to my wonderful <span style="color: #38761d;">husband</span>. We have walked the first leg of this life long journey together, hand in hand. Stronger today then we were at the beginning. I am one lucky gal.<br />
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I had not slept very well (typical), <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>devil horns were in full effect the moment <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>feet hit the ground (<span style="color: magenta;">she </span>told me to go back to bed when I walked in <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>room) and <span style="color: blue;">they </span>were well, shrieking (hungry, want to be held, the usual). It was going to be an amazing morning. The only saving grace was that I was having a good hair day. Hey, on these kind of days, it's the small things that help you through.<br />
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We managed to make it into the truck and there were only a few tears shed. Luckily none of them were mine - tears and good hair are not the greatest look.<br />
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I did my best to remain chipper during the drive. Pointing out things that might spark a smile. Nothing. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>had a sassy response for everything I said. Towards the end of the drive I was saying things only to irritate <span style="color: magenta;">her</span>. Not the greatest parenting technique and it WILL bite me in the ass later on, but for the time being it made me feel much better.<br />
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The <span style="color: blue;">boys </span>sat drinking <span style="color: blue;">their </span>milk bundled up with blankets and hats on. Thank goodness <span style="color: blue;">they </span>had quieted down. I might have stabbed myself in the eye if <span style="color: black;">they </span>had all continued with <span style="color: black;">their </span>nonsense. Not enough coffee and cranky kids = birth control.<br />
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I gladly dropped them off and shut the door behind me. It was as if a fog had lifted. It had been a tough morning. Mornings are difficult, but this one was hard. Some days are just like that. Take the good with the bad. I get it. But some days it is still hard.<br />
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As I started down the driveway to my truck, but something told me to turn around. I glanced over my shoulder and there <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>was. <span style="color: magenta;">Her </span>horns had disappeared and <span style="color: magenta;">she </span>was waving at me from the window. Blowing kisses and smiling. For a moment my eyes welled up with tears. <span style="color: magenta;">She </span>was so sweet. My little <span style="color: magenta;">girl</span>. I made that. Wow. It was one of those "mom" moments where all the bad melts away and all you can see are the wonders and joys of children. And then I realized....knowing <span style="color: magenta;">her, she</span> is cussing at me under <span style="color: magenta;">her </span>breath. Oh, well so much for that. It's a good thing <span style="color: magenta;">she's</span> cute.xoAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13291437723933278657noreply@blogger.com0